2009年11月5日星期四

《港孩》(中)

新作《港孩》出版了,友人們都問,究竟什麼是「港孩」?

潮流興討論「港男」和「港女」。

如果我們相信,「港女」的自視過高和拜金主義,「港男」的御宅成性不擅詞令,不獨是兩性間的無理漫罵,更是社會的一面鏡,反照城市某時代某種社會結構和文化的問題,那麼有一個群體,更值得我們關注──「港孩」。

根據觀察,大部份「港孩」均有一個或數個以下特徵:

一、 外表早熟、心智遲熟。
二、 很喜歡玩,但無甚興趣。
三、 對大部份事情最普遍的反應是沒有反應。
四、 擅於「看見」,不擅「閱讀」;擅於「收聽」,但從不「理解」。
五、 渴望被注意,但又沒有面對群眾的信心。
六、 什麼都不在乎不介懷不思考不要求,典型答案是:不知道。
七、 沒有責任感、沒有自理能力,同時也沒什麼好奇心和慾望。
八、 不珍惜學習,不嚮往長大,不怕悶,只怕辛苦。
九、 精於計算結果,毫不享受過程。
十、 本性善良,不吃人間煙火,當然也未經任何苦楚及傷害。

這些孩子都有一個共通背景,他們生於90年代中後至二千年初,一個物質相對富裕、資訊爆炸的時代。

他們的接觸面和能力,煞地不成正比。跟家裡遊遍五湖四海,但每餐飯仍由傭人一匙匙餵進咀裡;到過尼泊爾做外展,但連即食麵也不會煮;每天排滿節目,但見過的人和事,丁點沒印象。

荒謬吧?都是有血有肉的真實故事,且為數絕不少。置身事外,我們批判得輕易,近距離接觸,卻只覺無比痛心,亦不難發現,沒有歷煉不愛思考的孩子,都是咱們一手促成的。社會上每一份子,都難辭其咎。孩子是我們的未來,我們卻是孩子的劊子手。(待續)

15 則留言:

匿名 說...

i suppose you are not a mum, you did not go through our system in the past 10 years, from primary enrollment to secondary school placement to university entrance exam.

you would not know how crazy we are, or how we are forced to be crazy.


but I will buy your book.

匿名 說...

i post the first message.

just got your book and finished reading it. thank you for understanding our frustration.

i remember begging my son to memorize everything written in that few chapters in the text book and don't ever dream up new answers. I hate doing this but i have to if my son was to remain in that sort of elite school, be in at least band 2, so to say.

but deep in my heart I knew that was not the way we should go.

the last three chapters are the key point. the first few are just to arract readers to read.

匿名 說...

不這樣,可以怎樣﹖有沒有出路呢﹖

Phyllis 說...

I am glad to see someone who can say something about the children of Hong Kong, as our future depends on them.

See my post at http://hongkongexecutives.blogspot.com/2009/02/what-are-purposes-of-our-education-in.html

Keep your good work to make us more aware of our responsibilities how to raise our children for the future of all concerned.

Frostig 說...

Thanks!

I am so pleased to see sb writing such things while MANY of us understand the crazy mess but we have no say!!!

Thanks a lot! Will definitely buy it soon. :-)

Frostig 說...

P.S. It seems that our case is a bit similar (QUITE similar indeed, I believe) to Japan, poor us!!!

Frostig 說...

Dear 匿名,

I would like to let you know that, there is a doctor I know who studied in a Band 5 sec. school.

He was always first in class, and got different scholarships in U to support his home practically even before he finished U......

You know, the success of a child does not depend on the name of the school, but rather the child themself. Some children are smarter and some are less, but ONE THING is sure: good parants will make good children. Not only doctors or lawyers or bankers are good people!

We need good, happy people in this society, not any more rich but greedy and selfish people!

阿貓 說...

I bought the book, read it in one go, and am now recommending it to my friends who have kids or care about them. It touches me to see the "heart" and "fire" behind the words.

Count me in pushing the rock up.

匿名 說...

Nice article you wrote.
This phenomenon seems to have appear across all developed countries, afterall life is easy and food are plentiful for quite a long time now.
Therefore I wouldn't be surprise if there is war within the next decade.

Here is a nice documentary explains part of the reason why children behaves the way they are these days.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a6z_ovi6ct8

Phyllis 說...

You may check this out at
http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=193079396910 for some ideas of "knowing how to know", instead of "learning how to memorize".

honey mama 說...

最近打書釘看了閣下的書叫做港孩,大致上描述了今日的港孩是何種模樣:
一、 外表早熟、心智遲熟。
二、 很喜歡玩,但無甚興趣。
三、 對大部份事情最普遍的反應是沒有反應。
四、 擅於「看見」,不擅「閱讀」;擅於「收聽」,但從不「理解」。
五、 渴望被注意,但又沒有面對群眾的信心。
六、 什麼都不在乎不介懷不思考不要求,典型答案是:不知道。
七、 沒有責任感、沒有自理能力,同時也沒什麼好奇心和慾望。
八、 不珍惜學習,不嚮往長大,不怕悶,只怕辛苦。
九、 精於計算結果,毫不享受過程。
十、 本性善良,不吃人間煙火,當然也未經任何苦楚及傷害。

我雖然不認同,看完後我覺得很值得我們動動腦袋去想想,按著作家歸納的特徵,我感恩因為:
1. 我身材矮小,外表是小孩,心智也是呢。
2. 我很喜歡玩,最有興趣玩,最好每天都有時間玩。
3. 我對所有事情都有興趣,無論是甚麼事,爸爸常常笑我鐘意4X2。
4. 我最愛閱讀,也愛上堂聽書和任何方法「收聽」,當然最愛問問題。
5. 我很怕被注意,但因為學校鼓勵所以有小小面對群眾的信心。
6. 我甚麼也想一餐,每餐飯都問我爸媽很多問題,我很小答典型答案,但常常答錯東西。
7. 我想有更多責任感、但自問自理能力很普通,不過我有好大的好奇心和欲望。
8. 我很想快D長大,十分怕悶,不太怕辛苦,最怕無野做。
9. 我太享受任何過程,所以做事很慢。
10. 我有長期病患,所以我珍惜返學和任何東西。

我想將我們寫成《港孩》是不同意的,我也不想做港孩呢!

黃明樂 說...

Dear Honey Mama,

very nice to read this!! Keep it up. Share your passion and interests with everyone around you. They will feel it I'm sure!

Ming Lok

Honey Mama 說...

Dear Ming Lok,

It's a nice surprise to read your reply after school. I am only a 11 years old boy. Sorry if i say anything not pleasing you.

I really enjoying reading your book. Just not quite agree with some of the points...but your book do remind me that I should appreciate my parents, they coach me to think, to love and to learn. Of course, to play and study hard.

Well, your writing is so good that I learn a lot from you. When you have time, you are welcome to visit my blog and give me more advises.

Cheers,
Honey Mama

honey mama 說...

Ming Lok,

雖然我是一個小孩,其實我是有些東西想不通!我不明白為甚麼很多大人都好像喜歡自我否定?還是喜歡矛盾?

當我稱呼一些和我爸年齡相約的男士為叔叔,他們總客氣的說:叫哥哥得啦?!又如果我稱呼一些已婚的女士時,她們又會提醒我叫姐姐可以了?!當我稱呼一些將近六十的Auntie時,我會謹記叫姨姨?!

為甚麼坐地鐵時,當一位老伯伯上車,我身邊原本精神翼翼的人會變得又累又軟弱?甚至累得睡了?為甚麼當我讓坐後,又全都醒過來?然後讚我乖仔?

匿名 說...

I am one of the children born in that era. Yet I do not see any symtomes on me! (I hope this is luck.)
I've seen a lot of my classmates hosting more than one of the 10 characteristics, and some 'more mature' ones are evolving into 港女... What's your opinion on this 'evolution'?
Thanks a lot, and by the way, I read your book. It's really meaningful.