2010年4月1日星期四

隨着歲月失落的...

電影《歲月神偷》裏,有這可愛的一段﹕

八歲的羅進二,放學回家喊爸爸。爸爸邊做鞋邊問﹕「今日在學校學了什麼?」「中文和英文。」「中文堂學了什麼?」「中文。」「英文堂學了什麼?」「英文。」然後進二自顧自玩樂去,爸爸頭也不抬繼續忙。

翌日,對話又重演。不過今次當爸爸問﹕「中文堂學了什麼」,進二答﹕「英文。」「英文堂學了什麼?」「中文。」爸爸繼續趕工,進二繼續玩。

置身今日的香港,很難想像咱們曾有這段歲月。

在那個出人頭地全靠「沙紙」的年代,「讀得成書」比甚麼都重要。所以戲中的爸爸,死慳死抵也讓大兒子念名校。

但對於不念書的小兒子,父母也樂得由他拉扯大,反正礙於知識水平和生活艱難,才不會亦步亦趨督促學習。

今天,孩子還在念幼稚園,夫婦為了考名校而吵至擁子跳樓。大學碩士生,接二連三自殺。友人的學生,K2而已,某天戲言長大後要當工程師,翌日父母隨即買了一個像真度達九成的玩具「T秤」回家!

有補習經驗的友儕,眾口一詞,最怕家長每次都問﹕「我個仔今日表現點?有冇進步?」才一星期不見,你想他變出三頭六臂不成?

陪讀書、陪考琴、陪見工的家長,一個花盆摔下來起碼擲死十個八個,然而,不見得孩子的學問特別好,音樂造詣特別高,覓得的工作特別叫人羨慕。

觸目所及,反而是被迫苦了的孩子,勉強擠進了大學門檻,從此如解脫小鳥,走堂、Hea讀、欠功課、忙着掙外快,然後乘着幾近百分百的大學畢業率,無驚無險踏進社會,方向全無,人生至此,由零開始。

沒有父母侍候,孩子也能走出路來的歲月,都到哪兒去了?大概,也是神偷偷走了吧。

3 則留言:

hystericireul - 鄧景 說...

我認為這種情況的出現,與現在大行其道的「一條龍」教育、強調「多元智能」的社會風氣有脫不了的關係。強調再強調這些東西,最後卻使香港人邯鄲學步,看不到「學習」的根本。

一條龍政策原意也許是想為孩子「鬆綁」,但最終竟變成提前競爭,令學生更加苦不堪言。

提倡多元智能,最後卻令一班小孩心不甘情不願地去學這學那,卻一事無成。每年皇家音樂學院有三分之二強的評審來港作考官,但香港出過多少個音樂家?

http://hystericireul.xanga.com/715602972/

匿名 說...

I feel a bit sad when seeing most of the parents (especially middle income people) in Hong Kong force their kids to have outstanding academic performance and participate a lot of interst classes in order to equip them to be successful (that means making much money or as much as possible) in this competitive society. The model is quite similar to factory managers (parents) who want to gaurantee their products (their children) are up their standards/expectations so that they can be sold/consumed in the market. I think we should be very careful when doing this. I believe teaching the kids to have good academic performance is important. But inspiring them how to be happy and positive, enjoy life, enjoy learning, enjoy taking care of others, respect diversity, be considerate, to be true, to be honest, dare to be different, to be themselves...etc is also significantly important.
I agree with you. The parents (or the soical norms and values)sometimes simply steal a lot of wonderful things from our young people. It is tragic, isn't it?
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kwankunghkg 說...

school is only to 滿足父母對分數的要求
http://hk.myblog.yahoo.com/kwankunghkg/article?mid=1816

社會之躁動 民智之復古 皆因...
http://hk.myblog.yahoo.com/kwankunghkg/article?mid=1850