2008年4月4日星期五

貪男

友人問怎麼現代單身女子總找不到男朋友。

記得第一次心目中出現完美的男性形象,是金庸筆下的喬峰。他的好,「鐵漢柔情」四字足以概括。作為大俠,他正直不柯,帶領丐幫保家衛國。作為男人,他坐懷不亂,對馬夫人的挑逗視而不見。作為情人,紅顏阿朱臥病在床,一個硬漢竟願意為她說故事。難怪阿朱為了顧全情義甘心犧牲自己,若愛人就是喬峰,誰不會?

現實呢?鐵漢無幾,擦鞋仔和縮頭烏龜卻很多。柔情難求,對着女友黑面發脾氣,以為這才像個男人的,倒不少。今時今日,擇善固執,恐怕還會被取笑太萌塞。

之後,愛上令孤沖。淡泊名利,不貪戀家國大業,只求閒雲野鶴。際遇難測,難得個性樂天知命。與這樣的一個人,終日彈琴吹簫,笑傲江湖,真不錯!

現實呢?適婚男士,不是市儈貪財,沉迷功名利祿股票炒樓,就是遊手好閒飽食終日,無甚人生目標。個人興趣和修為,高質素但不奢華的生活,在香港地,很奢侈。

楊過也不錯。雖然偏執跋扈,那種極端而瘋狂的愛倒是無人能及。自小缺乏家庭溫暖,遇上每個萍水相逢的孤身女子,物傷其類,本能付出三倍呵護與關心。儘管他有許多缺點,真感情騙不了人。

現實呢?以為全世界欠了自己的男人很多,善解人意懂得浪漫的絕無僅有。

好男人,不是沒遇過,但早就搶購一空,來生請早。弊在見過最好的,就不想接受次一等。像郭襄曾目睹楊過對小龍女的深情,除卻巫山不是雲。倒不如把心一橫創立峨眉派,一朝桃李滿門,我自箇風流。

4 則留言:

Yun 說...

一直喜歡令孤沖那種﹐喬峰﹑楊過就不了。他倆(不自知地)有點濫情。

hevangel 說...

有個郭倩咁老實唔去滾已經偷笑了。搞不好大部份香港男人都係韋小寶。

加燦 說...

While 喬峰 and 令孤沖 are interesting, they are not my favourites. I like 楊過 a lot for the longest time but with age, I think his carelessness re his handling of 郭襄's birthday "gifts" and his impact on 郭襄 was regrettable (it is a flaw and charm of 楊過).

If you ask me now, 金庸筆下的韋小寶 is the best man/husband for his complexity, his principled "flexibility", and love of women, all seven of them! May be most men will pick 韋小寶 but if we look at the seven wives as seven facets of one wife, we can see woman exhibiting many of these characteristics that these seven wives have shown. This idea is something new that I just cooked up, so I don't know if it holds any water, but I like it.

I believe it takes some special insight to recognize that 韋小寶 is not a bad husband, in fact a good husband that just seem to be so bad (because of the number of wives he has).

Just like one needs to see through the superficial flaws on the surface of Lester Burnham (in American Beauty) to realize that he is a good and decent man deep down.

PISCES 說...

好男人,不是沒遇過,但早就搶購一空,來生請早....有否想過,不少好男人,是由聰明女人,在微時培養茁壯的?...就像創投基金,將一盤小生意,執靚,養大,再上市...