2009年3月25日星期三

現代盲婚啞嫁

相親,香港人嫌老土。但另類單身派對,卻愈來愈無處不在。

行山、飯局、BBQ、生日派對,明明是聚舊,一坐下,竟然整桌都是陌生人!朋友拉朋友的來,瞎扯一個晚上。以為曲終人散了,原來還有賽後檢討。誰戴了結婚指環,誰接過神秘電話,誰曾跟疑似女友SMS。剩下仍然單身的,每人給打個分。才一頓飯,在女生心中,男生就被分出高下,定了生死。

有怎樣的遊戲規則,就有怎樣的羸家和輸家。「面試」若此,也就難怪男人膚淺了。才華和涵養,總不易在一個柴娃娃飯局被發現吧。但職業收入財富地位,多多少少見微知著。而且,這些「可量度指標」,往往更是第一時間把對手攆出局的殺手鐧。你是男生,你寧願提升修養抑或賺多些錢?

同樣道理,也就明白女性為何要減肥。美醜,尚且各花入各眼。肥瘦,就十分客觀。驚鴻一瞥,算不上美女,至少別做件豬扒。曾有男性友人坦言,新相識又不合眼緣的,見兩次面都嫌多,品德再好都免問。

所以,也就別投訴港女港男沒內涵。當全世界都用吃快餐的心態去擇偶,市場上又怎會有老火湯?你道他們急功近利,他們反向你訴苦,城市人一天工作十二小時,見同一群人,談一樣的話題。生活圈子小,適婚年齡轉瞬過,不加快「進度」,手快有手慢冇,誰來可憐?

不敢小覤這些聚會的威力,倒真認識一些朋友因此焛電結婚。諷刺的是,靠着「可量度指標」去「簡化」篩選程序,粗支大葉地比較,跟古時的門當戶對八字相稱,有甚麼分別?

曾幾何時,我們大聲疾呼反對盲婚啞嫁,爭取自由戀愛。到頭來,心急之故,卻又愈活愈回去,心甘情願盲婚啞嫁起來,何苦?

4 則留言:

wah lung 說...

比較今昔「盲婚啞嫁」,確有相似的地方,但願也可以學習上一代,就算是盲婚啞嫁,也是一生一世的婚姻。不要忽然「重見光明」,又去尋找更美的將來,何苦?

Desertfox 說...

Very good point. As for me, I would also pay attention to the way they talk and behave. It is an even better indicator than the make-up

sam 說...

I admire those have angel face, devil figures but I choose an ordinary girl who is kindness to the seniors and cares about the family. Today is our 36 years annniversary. I salute to my wife, Catherine.

Al 說...

somehow, 盲婚啞嫁is good bcos there will be less old spinsters. Potential men will be reviewed by mom n relatives. Not saying that the process is definitely a good way to sieve for good quality guys. But it works in Japan and Korea still, why not HK? I think HK gals have too big an ego (or juz too shy) to secretly seek for help from those dating agents.